I recently had a patient tell me that they didn’t know if they would be able to continue coming to our dental office due to what I would consider social issues. The way that you respond and interpret these type of statements can make all the difference. And I’d say that it applies to both business and personal relationships.
One staff member stated that they took personal offense to the statement. My perspective on what some people consider attacks or assaults of character is one of my biggest personal a-ha moments. This patient’s concerns could be a reflection of what is going on in their life. It is always important to review and see if there’s anything in your healthcare delivery system that needs revision. Not going into a defensive mode is imperative, getting upset about how could they say such a thing… can take you out of the ‘present’ moment.
I suggest giving your full attention and listening to the persons concerns with no interjections. By being present and tuning in to what they are saying you can learn quite a bit about their perspective. When they are done, you can say that you are sorry that they are so upset. You can ask if there is anything you can say or do that would improve the situation. But giving any type of explanation could be risky. It probably depends on the complexity of the event and whether it is easily remedied or not. Attempting to stay neutral and methodical can save the day on this one.
If you get upset and reactive, it helps promote the emotional energy of the situation. Understanding that you may not have all of the information surrounding their emotional response can allow you to be empathetic. There can be a dozen factors contributing to the situation. By remaining neutral and supportive, you greatly decrease the risk of a heated exchange. You also increase the odds that after the moment has passed that the person will be able to get over it and continue the relationship. My favorite mantra is that it’s mostly likely not about you, it’s probably about them and their life. As Eckhart Tolle taught us; avoid the painbody and remain present. It makes all the difference in the world.